Dealing With: Disappointment

Disappointment.  The dictionary definition is, “the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.”  Disappointment can come in many shapes and sizes, whether it’s not making the track team you really wanted to be on, or simply not getting what you want.  When we’re little, like toddler age, we tend to deal with disappointment by throwing a temper tantrum.  A kid doesn’t get the piece of candy from the birthday piñata that he wanted, so he flips out.  We’ve all seen it, right?  Now that you’re past that stage, how do you deal with disappointment?  It could be that you get super upset and sulk and hole up in you room all day. It could also be that you blame others for what you didn’t get, whether it be the teacher who didn’t give you the part you wanted in the school play, or it could be a grudge against the person who did get the part.  Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (NIV)  God has mapped out a plan for your life, which may not be the plans you yourself have.  Knowing this, we will still have disappointment in our lives.  Here are a few ways to deal with disappointment:

1. Get a different perspective.  You’re not fast enough for the track team, but at least you CAN run.  You don’t get into your first choice college, but at least you have enough money to GO to college.  Think of it in the bigger picture.  If you have a goal, work hard to reach it.  If you don’t make it, keep going and make a new goal for yourself.

2.  Pray about it.  Ask God for perseverance and His guidance in your life.  If something disappoints you, don’t shut Him off; pray more!

3.  Read what the Bible has to say.  Here are a few verses to look up in your Bible: Romans 8:28, Philippians 4:6-7, Psalms 27:14

Disappointment can be a hard thing to overcome, but we can know that the Lord is watching over us!  Lift your eyes to the Lord and let all your worries, disappointment and sin rest on Him. God has a future for you, even though it might not be the one you’re expecting.

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5 thoughts on “Dealing With: Disappointment

  1. Pat Hales

    Remember: when things don’t work out, it just means something better is on the way. We can’t see the whole picture but God can!

  2. Christiane Shipley Wade

    Emma, this is a very insightful post! You have great wisdom for your age! Keep up the great thinking!


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